as for the ‘knows what he wants’ i feel like it’s one of those online dating profile cliches that people toss around like “i am laidback and confident”. i mean, who is really going to confess that they are neurotic and insecure? that’s why online dating doesnt work. people dont really reveal their true selves. however, i have known people who started dating via blogs! hmmm, maybe stacy should start an indie bloggers dating site lol.

Found you through Indie Bloggers (congrats by the way) and loved your piece so much I decided to check out your blog.

I have to agree with exactly what Tiff said.But also, If I had a profile on match.com and I wrote ‘knows what he wants’ I would definitely follow it with ‘and goes after it’. For me, ‘knows what he wants’ is about ambition and goals. And there is nothing sexier than a man (in jeans, board shorts or even pj’s if he is so inclined) who has some sort of plan. You know?

Congrats on the Indie Bloggers posting too.

Lachlan – well every man would like a sex buddy that they could call day or night but I doubt that inspires attraction in women.

Dennis – double date? I’d totally go out with RMS just to say I did. I’m a groupie.

Tiff – Would that man have to be so confident and assertive like 90%+ of the time? I can do that but I could probably only be that useful in short bursts.

To me a man who “knows what he wants” is confident in himself, comfortable in his own skin, is decisive when things need to be decided, doesn’t waffle on his opinions, doesn’t try to make the girl make all the plans, takes charge.

Knowing what you want at Starbucks doesn’t really do it for me, although asking for a Large Coffee drives me up the wall.

loved this post by the way.

as for guys who know what they want, i don’t have a clue either.

This is looking at it simply (it’s all I can manage), but a guy who knows what he wants just sounds to me like a guy who knows in advance what he is looking for in a girl and what he wants to get out of a relationship. This type of guy may be less likely to fuck around when pressed for commitment? Don’t know how you could detect the quality though :P

Those girls probably mean “I want him to want from himself what I want from him.” Because, really, what else does it mean? They’ve probably all dated guys who knew exactly what they wanted, and they just didn’t agree. Do you know what I mean?

Either that, or it’s just a way of saying confidence. I know a lot of girls are really drawn to confidence, myself included.

I love how M&Ms are perfect for exploiting OCD sufferers. Line up a few organized by color and with the “m” facing up and watch them build their pattern. Eat some while they try to do this.

Andrew – I think honesty would be really important. I think most guys would also appreciate an honest girl. But there are all these idiotic games that are just unavoidable. We’re not robots.

Maxie – Yeah, I was kind of thinking the girls did not know what to write. On the flip side, I think every guy asks himself if it is ok to write “must have a huge rack” on their profile.