| Feb152008 | Aftermath of Speed Dating |
Like I said, I went speed dating. It’s been a few days and I got my results… zero matches for a second date, one match for friendship and zero matches for business.
Let’s just clarify that when I say “matches”, I mean “matches”. I don’t find out if someone ticked me for a second date unless I also ticked them, etc. The results line up with my expectations since I did nothing to really flirt with the women and any attraction that was there would be based on my looks (and my accent) alone. Whilst I am obviously a very handsome individual, there is no accounting for individual tastes and obviously the stars did not align this night. No harm, no foul.
So who did I tick? Like I said, there was no flirting going on and I ticked two girls for “second date” based on looks alone. We didn’t have any particular chemistry but I thought the risk was worth the reward. Actually, I lie; I also ticked the drunk girl just because I thought it would be funny. For friendship, I only ticked two women based on the fact we had a real conversation, one of them replied in kind. Who knows if a friendship will really start, maybe it’s just an easy way to signal “you’re a nice person” and nothing more will come of it. For business, I ticked no one.
In summation, I failed to play the game. There’s a reason they call it “speed” dating, you have to move fast. Flirting to me is a long, drawn out process filled with nuance and laughs and gradual exposure to one another. I am not accustomed to making a strong impression in eight minutes. My advice for speed daters is to go in strong and immediately flag your interest. This won’t appeal to everyone but it’s the only reasonable way of getting a stranger to agree to a 1-on-1 date with you. Try to work in some variation of the famous “nice shoes” line.
All in all, speed dating was actually pretty fun. It’s extremely low risk and great fun as long as you go in with the right expectations.
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