Comments on: Tina, And Everything That Followed

By: jinius

jinius — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 22:30:04 +0000

Ha love the haters to the left reference.

Sometimes advice is good but in the very end you have to go with your instincts. or your second or third instinct.

By: chris

chris — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 20:14:50 +0000

I agree with Mike, well written!

By: mike

mike — Wed, 09 Apr 2008 11:58:11 +0000

I liked your drinking metaphor :-)

By: Jack

Jack — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 22:53:45 +0000

Tiff: My crushes never pass. I am stupid that way.

Deutlich: This will all work out and come up roses. You know how I know that? Because I read that letter and it's fucking brilliant. Period.

poodlegoose: What I like to do is just continually ask them, "Who are you trying to convince, me or you?"

DS: I used to be far more down so I know what a self-fulfilling carnivale of shit that can be. Yeah, the gloom can be quite infectious if you don't act fast.

Ashley: Find a friend you really love and start being honest about your relationship. The simple act of telling does wonders. I only spend half the usually time obsessing because I've got others to share the worry with.

Maxie: Well, if it turns out great then I guess you really can't complain. ;)

By: Maxie

Maxie — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 19:03:57 +0000

I never tell people about my crushes because when I do they totally backfire. Especially when they’re on co-workers. I’ll tell one friend that I think a co-worker is cute and BAM the whole damn office will know. It usually speeds along the whole process of dating…or at least flirting, but I hate it because it makes life so awkward.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 18:56:07 +0000

see – i have trouble with these steps because i have trouble disclosing all the facts. not that i am not a truthful person, i’m just a private person. so if i ask someone for advice on something really weighing on my mind (i.e. current end of my relationship of 3 years), it’s hard for me to really follow everything they say because they don’t really know the whole story. its really no one’s fault but my own.

By: distracted spunk

distracted spunk — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 16:05:17 +0000

It's funny. I've never really done the crush thing, not since high school at least. In middle school, it made no difference. In high school, he knew I liked him, and I knew he liked me, but he ended up dating my friend and subsequently abusing her and marrying her.

But I am with you on the eliminating negative forces. I don't make friends with people who are more down than up. I don't become attracted to people who are more down than up. It's a strange phenomenon.

By: poodlegoose

poodlegoose — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 14:24:31 +0000

I'm right there with ya. That's probably why I've only had like 3 boyfriends/dates whatev. But then the one dude I did tell about a (fleeting) crush ended up being a blog post. I am so good at this. And apparently, I'm kind of intimidating, so no one approaches me (or at least that's what I've told myself).

But seriously? I should direct one of my friends to this post because all she wants to hear is "Oh, what you're doing is right" all the time, but she keeps coming back and then making stupid decisions. And it's starting to piss me off. I know I can be like that too, but geez.

By: Deutlich

Deutlich — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 14:23:38 +0000

I'm the QUEEN of crushing from a far. I mean, seriously. And that letter I wrote Brian? Is scaring the bejeeeeeezies outta me.

For real.

By: tiff

tiff — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 12:50:39 +0000

I’m the same way. I keep my crushes hidden until I a)cant take it anymore or more likely b)they pass.